It's a common scenario for many BZPers. Strangers will commonly add you to their friends list, and they don't even explain why, let alone acknowledge you much afterwords, like you'd think that a person wanting to be your friend would. In the end, they are still strangers.
There's a tip in the CoT TBRPG guide that encourages RPG owners to require people to PM character sheets to them before joining. I don't know how, but it's somehow supposed to make it more likely for people to join the RPG and be an active player.
I have applied this to my friendship policy. My rough equivalent is not that I will require the addition of my name to one's friends list to be approved, but I would like you all to know that whenever I see "Friend Approved" in my inbox with someone's name right next to it that I don't immediately recognize and understand, I am going to hit the reply button and ask this simple question: "Why?"
Recently, I received the first PM ever explaining why someone added me to their friends list, and it was very nice to understand their reasons. Then today someone added me to their friends list, but I didn't receive an explanation as to why. I want to know what common ground we have that got myself so much approval from someone. There might be a misunderstanding. For all I know, someone might have added me because of my RPGing activity and not because of my hatred for the Toa Mistika. If someone's going to add me to their friends list, than I want to understand. I will ask from now on.
Your Honor,
Emperor Kraggh
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