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- One positive aspect of becoming a parent would be that I could pass down my own experience to someone (child) who may be able to make use of it in the future.

- A second positive aspect of becoming a parent would be the ability to settle down somewhere nice, somewhere safe.

- That amazing feeling I know many get when they become a father/mother, I can't speak much on it, given, I'm not a father, but I've known quite a large amount of family members who have talked about what it was like.

 

Most of my own feelings of becoming a parent, positive feelings, are harder to really describe, probably more because it's based more around the emotions and the idea of just watching a son/daughter learn, grow and possibly become successful in life. Details aren't the easiest to really make out, at least for when I think of it.

 

- One negative aspect of becoming a parent would be that, at first, the constant waking up in the middle of the night to check on the child.

- A second negative aspect that I'd see would probably fall under changing the diapers, this would be more of a problem for me given I'm a pretty squemish individual.

- A third negative aspect would be working so hard and long beforehand, so the proper amount of money would be there in order to support a child and all others in the household. It'd be a lot of thinking and planning, at least for me.

 

Three positive aspects of remaining childless;

 

- Being able to continue the pursuit of personal goals, but perhaps not so much amazingly realistic ones. (Such as a goal of mine would be to become a widely known author, but if I had a child, I'd find myself dropping that and picking up a different, well paying job so that I could fulfill my responsibility as a parent)

- The lack of being responsible for anything, except for yourself. It sounds a bit greedy, but when you have a ton of responsibility (That maybe you aren't prepared for) it builds up stress within yourself, and stress tends to hurt in the long run.

- The ability to really do as you please, the only limits being the law. If you had a child, you can't have constant parties with friends, you can't go out frequently, you can't watch certain movies (Or, I just wouldn't).

 

Three negative aspects of remaining childless;

 

- Well, for one, if I went through life childless I'd feel as if I really wasted my life, so in the long-term, it'd lead to a sort of depression (Probably in my older years -- IE: forty/fifty and onwards.

- You'd never be able to really, fully, grow into a more responsible adult, or have the experience of having a child in order to help out others who could be new.

- There'd never be a feeling of amazement, that indescribable sensation for when you are a new parent/when you're expecting to be a parent.

 

 

 

 

--- These are really only positives and negatives from my viewpoint, though. I'm sure there are people who would probably take one of the negatives on mine and sculpt it into a positive and vice-versa. But, I hope it was helpful.

Positives for having a child:

1. Increased sense of responsibility and duty, plus that overall warm fuzzy hormonal feeling people allegedly get when they have kids.

2. Furthered lineage.

3. Someone to take care of you when you be an old person.

4. A theoretical adorable offspring who will love you unconditionally.

 

Negatives for having a child:

1. Whiny screamy little brat in your house for 18+ years.

2. Severe financial drain for pretty much the rest of your life.

3. Can take a toll on a marriage/relationship.

 

Positive aspects for remaining childless

1. More personal time to succeed in your career or personal ambitions

2. MORE MONEY.

3. Nothing says "hey baby I love you" like a screaming child in the next room.

4. Did I mention more money? The little buggers are expensive.

 

Negative aspects for remaining childless

1. No heritage, especially if you're an only child; your line dies with you.

2. No support in your declining years (assuming your child will even want to have contact with you).

3. Everybody would be like "why don't you have kids" blah blah blah.

 

In case you didn't figure it out, I loathe children, and never ever want them.

Thanks guys -- I really appreciate your responses.