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Smoking

Posted by -Sidorak- , Jan 20 2008 · 197 views


I have a friend who started smoking. I'd like to talk to him about it -- any suggestions on what I might say?

Thanks.

~Sidorak The Hunter


(Republished 1/20 because this is important to me.)

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That Green Gentleman
Jan 19 2008 12:03 PM
You might calmly say,

"WHAT THE HECK DO YOU THINK YOUR DOING!?!?!?!?!? YOU WILL PROBABLY DIE!"

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QUOTE(Jack_Skellington @ Jan 19 2008, 09:03 AM)
You might calmly say,

"WHAT THE HECK DO YOU THINK YOUR DOING!?!?!?!?!? YOU WILL PROBABLY DIE!"

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No, but seriously, I need some tips. He's doing it for the same, idiotic reason most teenagers start smoking -- he thinks it makes him cooler. wacko.gif

~Sidorak The Hunter
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I couldn't do it without swearing. You gotta agrue with him. He'll see what its doing to himself and others.

But if you're really concerned, trying reaching his parent(s) and see if they care or know.

Unfortunately, its easy to start and hard to get off.

Just make sure you yourself stay straightedge.

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"You are going to DIE." It would suffice for me. Not that I would start in the first place.

Uh, bad breath, bad smell in general, yellow teeth, difficult breathing, lung cancer, premature death, inevitable rejection by all intelligent people. Or maybe the rat poison in cigarettes. Just to name a few off the top of my head.

Hope your friend wisens up...

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Tufi Piyufi
Jan 19 2008 03:24 PM
I don't really know what you should say, because that feels like something dependent on the unique aspects of your relationship and the situation, but I can suggest something that you shouldn't do.

Please, if you do talk to him about it, do not speak from on top of a very high horse. At all. I'm not sure there's a faster way to get him to discredit anything you say than by explicitly telling him 'smoking is bad and it kills you you moron'.Don't make it a confrontation. Don't treat him like a child who doesn't know what's good for him. If and when you do talk to him about it, make it a conversation just between the two of you, make sure he's already feeling comfortable and without his guard up, and do not awkwardly segue it into the existing conversation.

I know this might sound just a bit touchy-feely, but believe me, now is not the time to be bringing any sledgehammers into play.
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That Green Gentleman
Jan 19 2008 04:07 PM
I was being sorta serious, I was laughing about a inside joke I have with some friends.

But yeah, just make him realize the bad of it, when he's doing it (if your around him when he does) take a napkin and tell him to put it over his mouth and breath, it should be really ugly and black, tell him thats what his lungs will look like

Stopped a friends friend.
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Wrinkledlion X
Jan 19 2008 10:55 PM
Multiple relatives I have have smoked and done drugs and I assure you that a lot of subtlety must be used.

Don't act as though you look down on him for it- You need to make clear that you think nothing less of him for it but that you deeply disapprove of it. Don't just bash him over the head with a list of ingredients and health risks, either, because that doesn't help. It adds to the whole "looking-down-on-him" thing.

Remember not to act as though you're more knowledgeable on the subject than he is because you're probably not. Everybody knows the health dangers of smoking and the problem is almost definitely that he's ignoring them. He's heard them before and restating them will just be more white noise.

Just let him know that you don't want him to do it and that you're worried for his safety. Remember that looking out for him as a friend is a much more powerful form of leverage than looking out for him as an enemy.
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Step 1.Get Chuck Norris
Step 2.Have him roundhouse kick your friend in the ehad to get his brain straightened back up
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-KW- (Sora and Kid Cat for Brawl!)
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Thanks, everyone. Please keep the tips coming.

Arch-Angel: I am indeed really concerned for him, although I'm not going to go to his mom yet. I'm going to try to get a few more of my friends to talk to him about it, including the girl he likes. sly.gif And I will never smoke.

xccj: I don't want to tell him he's going to die, at least not outright. He knows the consequences of smoking (weakened immune system, ugly appearance, ten years off your life, etc.) He knows he will be rejected by intelligent people, but thinks he's cooler with his smoking friends. Maybe he's cooler with them now, but where will those "friends" be in 2 years, when we've graduated high school? rolleyes.gif

Tufi Piyufi: I'm DEFINITELY not going to act like I'm better than him, or anything like that. I know that's not what people who smoke (or take drugs) want to hear. Thanks for the idea of integrating it into a normal conversation -- I will do that.

Jack_Skellington: He already knows the consequences of smoking, we've seen the same anti-smoking curriculum in school together since the 4th grade. But that napkin idea is interesting. Does it really work? If so, I may show him that. Congratulations on getting your friend's friend to quit. smile.gif

-Wrinkledlion X-: I completely agree with you, especially your last two sentences. Thanks. smile.gif

-KW-: Sounds reasonable. laugh.gif

~Sidorak The Hunter
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I hate being the only one saying to go to his parents...

Get a Brazilian (like yours truly), and I'll ask you if you what Plan A, B, or C.

Plan A, I superkick his teeth down his throat.

Plan B, I give a Capoeira kick right at his jaw.

Plan C.



There. I feel more manly.

Also on the napkin trick, if he hasn't been doing it for a long time, wouldn' it appear lightly on the napkin?

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That Green Gentleman
Jan 20 2008 12:58 PM
QUOTE(Sidorak The Hunter @ Jan 20 2008, 12:42 AM)
Thanks, everyone. Please keep the tips coming.

Jack_Skellington: He already knows the consequences of smoking, we've seen the same anti-smoking curriculum in school together since the 4th grade. But that napkin idea is interesting. Does it really work? If so, I may show him that. Congratulations on getting your friend's friend to quit. smile.gif

~Sidorak The Hunter


Yeah, freakin scared him. And I guess it just depends on how set your friend is on doing that kind of stupid stuff, if he's toying with it, he should get scared, if he's going to stick with it, you might get involved with the parents (or if they even care or know), tell him that stupid stuff, leads to stupid things.

Arch: Yeah, but if he waits a week, it should show up pretty black, took my friends friend three days.

And the girl he likes idea is very good, but if all else fails, the parents are the way to go
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cags//cunninghat/2x2b
Jan 20 2008 08:46 PM
QUOTE(-KW- @ Jan 20 2008, 12:42 AM)
Step 1.Get Chuck Norris
Step 2.Have him roundhouse kick your friend in the ehad to get his brain straightened back up
.


-KW- (Sora and Kid Cat for Brawl!)

Umm, I doubt that'd help, as it's Chuck Norris.


~D
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R.I.P. Chuck Schuldiner
Jan 30 2008 12:36 AM
I had a friend that started to smoke, I kinda' helped but I used curse words. I basically called him a ****ing moron, grabbed the cigarette out of his hands, stompped it in the ground, then told him the out come of his stupid actions and then he basically stopped smoking after a bunch of people did the same, oh yeah!

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And he responded how?
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