If someone scolds you, or even calls you a name, you are not being 'attacked'.
If you are in a major debate with someone, it is not a 'war', nor a 'battle'.
If someone physically assaults or threatens to do so, you are being 'attacked'.
If two groups of people take up arms or fight each other, then it may be called a 'battle'. If multiple battles occur over the same thing, it may be called a 'war'.
There's a difference. Quit saying someone attacked you if you had an argument, so those of us who are trying to figure out what you're talking about don't think somebody came after you with a baseball bat!
Why I'm posting all this on BZP, I don't know. I think it's just because I happen to have a blog here, and nowhere else.