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I'm tired of lying


Snelly

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You know I've always tried to be an honest person. And while I'm certainly not perfect at it I'd like to think I've done an okay job. Except with one person, myself.

 

I've denied the truth about myself, subconsciously or otherwise. Thinking back I realise I've been doing this for years, probably since 9th grade. I'd tell myself day by day that was completely comfortable with who I was, what I believed, and that I didn't care what others thought of me. That I always acted like me even if it got me weird looks or if I got called a 'freak' or a 'goofball' or whatever the ###### they came up with. I could roll with the punches, laugh at almost everything said about me, and tell everyone I didn't care what people thought of me. That I wasn't going to conform to make other people around me happy.

 

Well, as a certain Tyler so elegantly put it once, I'm a moron. I cared what people thought of me, I still care what people think of me. I can tell myself all day long that I don't but that's just not true. I do. I want to be liked and loved just like any other human being. What people say about me does affect how I act, what I say, and probably even what I think. Sure, I've always kept up the facade that I couldn't care less what people would say, and maybe sometimes I really didn't, but the truth of the matter that every insult, compliment, or criticism affects me in some way or another. I may laugh it off or just act indifferent but inside it still hurts. I love getting attention, especially the center of it and I'd probably say any stupid thing to get it.

 

I've always been the cheerful, generally optimistic, carefree person that I've expected myself to be. That's okay, it's part of who I am, it's not something I can just change, or would ever want to. I've done a pretty good job of maintaining that over the years, but on the inside I feel things that I rarely, if ever speak of, even to myself.

 

I hate yelling, no I'm not talking about your everyday yell of alarm or trying to get someone's attention. I'm talking about that deep, loud, terrifying blood curdling scream that only the grouchiest, meanest of people can summon from their throats. Well, hello to my late grandfather, who I lived with till I was about 13. Now I loved my grandfather, but the man had anger issues like no one I've ever met since. And naturally who was the person who was on the receiving end of this howling? Well if he and my dad weren't busy screaming at each other it was me. I probably don't need to say it sucked. Kind of makes you feel like fleeing in terror and hiding where no one can find you.

 

I don't even know why I'm talking about this, maybe I just need too. I tend to act like I'm not afraid of anything, truth is I feel absolutely terrified on some level. It might not come out every day, or even every week, but it's there somewhere. I'm afraid that people won't like me, hate me, think the things I enjoy are stupid, and I'm pretty sure I could cry if the right person decided to start screaming at me. It used to happen all the time.

 

For a guy who's pretty much declared war against conformity, I'm pretty guilty of it. I've conformed for friends, strangers, my parents, pretty much everyone. So to really start changing all that I'm just going to flat out admit something. I'm genderfluid. Since around my early teens I've been obsessed with the idea of being a woman, I don't think a single day has gone by since then that I haven't at least thought about it once. For a long time I've kept that mostly to myself, sometimes I've wondered if something's wrong with me, or if I need help. I don't even want to think about how my parents would react if they knew how I felt.

 

Well, I'm pretty much sick and tired of hiding it. So I've decided to just outright admit it. I'm genderfluid, might even be a transsexual I don't know. All I know is I've needed to admit it for long time. It's taken me years to get the guts to do this, and you guys were a large part of it, especially my peeps on Skype. <3

 

So there, my darkest secret is out, yay.

 

God...I'm actually posting this.

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Well, when I saw the link to this in the 'ol Skype chat, I pondered a fair bit on what I wanted to say. And ultimately, what I want to say is pretty simple; I'm not all that surprised, and even if I was, it wouldn't matter. Absolutely nothing wrong with it.

 

You're still you, which means you're still a friend, a member of the RRA, and one of our more fun RPG players.

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Good on you, mate! :D

*fluid highfive*

*highfives*

 

 

You're awesome, then again you've always been awesome. So proud of you! <3

<3

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Okay, I know this is super important stuff and all, but I just need to get this out of the way: Right now I so want to change my name to "The Duke of Westleton" and just comment about discovering the secret of Arendelle because I am a dork.

 

Okay, sorry, yes important things. Well, I had to look up genderfluid because I didn't recognize what that was. I can't say I fully understand what it is either because I just learned the concept, but I'm glad you're coming to terms with who you are. Anyway, just try not to lose any sleep about other people's opinions and keep calm.

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Okay, I know this is super important stuff and all, but I just need to get this out of the way: Right now I so want to change my name to "The Duke of Westleton" and just comment about discovering the secret of Arendelle because I am a dork.

 

Okay, sorry, yes important things. Well, I had to look up genderfluid because I didn't recognize what that was. I can't say I fully understand what it is either because I just learned the concept, but I'm glad you're coming to terms with who you are. Anyway, just try not to lose any sleep about other people's opinions and keep calm.

 

I'd find that hilarious. =D Also tbh I didn't know what genderfluid was till a couple weeks ago, when I saw it and read up on it I was instantly like: Yeah that's me all over. Basically I can feel like a man and a woman at the same time, or a guy one day girl the next, or some mix of the two that doesn't have a label.

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Unfortunately my last name change was too recent. =/

 

But still, that sounds interesting. I'll likely look into it to familiarize myself.

 

Also, this is just a hunch, but it looks like people here like you anyway. =P

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Pretty heavy stuff for a first blog entry.

 

But good on you. As a cisgendered white hetero male, I've had it easy when it comes to my identity, so I can only admire minorities who have dealt with so much more, especially those who have to struggle just to discover and assert who they are and what makes them that way.

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Glad to see you be honest with yourself.

 

As Krayzikk put it before me, this really doesn't change much at all. You're still one of the closest acquaintances I have on Skype, and seeing you feel better about yourself makes me happy. Best of luck mate.

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How did I miss this entry? As a fellow Nate, you've got my support. I'm glad you were not only able to find a way to define yourself that feels right, but also that you were brave enough to share it.

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i may be late to the party (and I may or may not have consumed all available previously existant alcoholic beverages present at aforementioned shindig), but that doesn't mean i can't proffer the host a well deserved toast

 

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to self-discovery, Nate's continual bonheur, and an appropriately amiable reception

 

also cats

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Late to the party, can't say anything that no one else has already said but NATE YOU ROCK ON SO MANY LEVELS RIGHT NOW IT'S UNBELIEVABLE!

 

<33333333

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