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  1. Hey, I'm back, though with an apology this time.

     

    I won't take back everything I said, but I admit that it was out of line of me to just jump right in and declare "I THINK YOU'RE WRONG!" Without enough to back up my claims, to boot. I admit it was pretentious of me, and I was indeed lacking information in multiple areas. I've talked with (several rather scathing) people on [that one blogging site], and gotten my facts straight. Most of the issue was that. The rest was me being incapable of properly saying what I meant.

     

    I don't want to renew this debate or anything, but I want to answer the issue about makeup. Yeah, I know women don't necessarily (or even mostly) wear makeup to impress guys. I was being satirical, and in doing so, deviated from the point I was trying to make, that there's a difference between admiration and objectifiation, and that I felt I hadn't crossed the line. I think the main reason why so many thought I did was because of my poor choice of example and words. I was attempting to highlight my praise for strong women, and ended up drawing the focus (mine included) on the lustful aspect of it, which in turn made it sound objectifying. I clarified this a bit more on [that one blogging site], too.

     

    So once again, I apologize for trying to sound smart on a subject I truly know little about, and also for my confusing choice of words throughout. I honestly don't know what possessed me to do such a thing, but rest assured that I regret it and have no plans of repeating this mistake.

  2. Okay, I'm done here. It's clear everything I say here can and will be twisted to suit your worldview. I will just say that "The current batch of assaulters is way too large to be outliers or 'psychos'. Our society is still normalizing sexual assault and that is definitely something that can be impacted highly by the dismantling of the patriarchy." is the most radfem thing I have ever heard.

  3. Where do I start? "Can't help that" to the idea of the perpetuation of assault, a simple shrug-off to a serious frickin issue that affects several people. Clearly, men are not taught well enough, because they still assault people on a large scale.

     

     

     

    There will always be psychos. You cannot change that. That is what I was saying. Not that it can't be changed at all.

     

     

    CONTINUING to objectify women with the rationale of a sexist stereotype of women that the patriarchal society has, in fact, provided you.

     

    Apparently the line between 'objectifying' and 'finding attractive' is blurred in your eyes.

     

     

    And then, to top it all off, despite the obviously ill-informed state of it, you merely say you have a differing opinion, despite the fact it hurts women, men, and non-binary genders in several ways, and still among all this, you claim to be "not sexist".

     

    Yes, I gave false statistics, as hyperbole. My opinion is that things are not AS BAD as they are made out to be. Not that the issues don't exist. I have a differing opinion on that, and Smeag claimed I was wrong without providing proof of that. I have a different opinion, and I am hurting nobody.

     

    And I still stand by my claim of non-sexism.

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    Thing is, men are taught not to ######, but there are still those who do it. Can't help that.

    Oh wow, you actually pulled that one out. Objectifying this, objectifying that! If women don't want to be objectified in the slighted bit, then why do most of them still wear makeup?

    I am not objectifying, I am admiring. Women want to be desired, don't they?

    I apologize for having a differing opinion.

    I hope you don't mind that I pulled out the most disgustingly misogynistic things from your post.

    Care to explain?

  5. Okay, I am through trying to figure out quotes, so I'll just do it like this!

     

    I'll make clear that I by no means believe that sexual assault is 'encouraged' in any serious way, shape or form. And I do not believe that women are being discriminated against in the proud US of A.

    This isn't limited to the United States, and you can deny it all you want, but you're flat-out wrong. The patriarchal society is a long-running establishment. It's not necessarily conscious - leaders and citizens aren't (usually) actively saying "Let's make laws and systems specifically to oppress women." But that's what makes this all the more insidious - because the reality is they ARE enforcing a system that hurts, marginalizes, and oppresses women, regardless. And I won't stand still until that is dismantled and all genders are truly treated equally.

     

    I won't deny it's not limited there. But it's the only country I can speak for, since I live there. That's why I said it specifically.

    The fact that it isn't conscious is precisely what I was arguing.

     

    I believe instead that the government is making bad decisions regarding all women, where they are focusing on a much smaller demographic which they could handle better anyways.

    I'm not sure what you're trying to say here, and I'm not sure what the "smaller demographic" at hand is - considering women are more than half the population. The fact that they have such ridiculously small representation in government despite literally being more than 50% of our populations makes it pretty obvious the idea of government "for the people, by the people, of the people" is grossly inaccurate. Hey, while we're at it, could we make the Senate less of a white club, too?

    The smaller demographic is specifically the women with a male provider that are likely to take a long maternal leave due to having children. And yes, I see what you are talking about there.

     

    I know, I'm not affected by it, but I'm not saying it doesn't happen, just that there is a different explanation for it than radfems think. Namely, that the gov. is stupid, and not actually mysoginistic.

    Misogyny and stupidity go hand-in-hand, buddy. Heh. Do you really think misogyny is always a conscious thing? Do you think any kind of cultural marginalizing is? As said, even the worst offenders in the government out there aren't sitting down and saying "I'm going to write a bill to hurt all women" today - but they've been so steeped in cultural misogyny and sexism their entire lives (and so have we), that so many cultural attitudes and traditions they (and we) view as "normal" are controlling and oppressive towards women. And make no mistake, we all were raised in this, and we all will always have more to learn about things we're doing and saying that are inadvertently harmful - but that's why we have to open our minds and educate ourselves, rather than pout and lash back and take offense when someone says "stop hurting me."

     

    Ah, my mistake, I honestly did think you were attacking people who did it consciously with your rant.

    Do you care about your fellow people at all? Then you'd better stop telling people they're wrong when they hurt, and instead learn why they feel that way (even if you don't believe it to be true). Nine times out of ten you'll be shocked by what you discover.

     

    Of course I care for fellow people. And I can't help that we have opposing views on certain points. Telling people they're wrong when you oppose them is human nature. And I've talked with feminists before. Not many times, but I have. Frankly (and this doesn't go for all of them, only the ones I talked to), I was not impressed. But these were crazy Sarkeesian fangirls, sooooooo yeah.

     

     

    I take part in low-toned ###### shaming,

    Disgusting.

     

    LOW toned. As in cultured voicing of my disapproval.

    but I also shame "studs" as well.

    This is what we call "false equivalence." You may disapprove of both to a degree you feel is equal, but one of these is supported by a cultural institution and one is not. The traditional, pervasive attitude in Western culture is to congratulate men for their sexual activity and condemn women for the same, and that's basically a textbook definition of I N E Q U A L I T Y.

     

    I don't see the point you're trying to get across here, or how it relates to my shaming both men and women in this regard. You made all of this perfectly clear before, and it in no way refutes or devalues my point.

    And of course, the fact that you're using the words "######" and "stud" - one of which is a sexual slur and one of which is a cultural compliment - makes me question how "equal" your disapproval is regardless.

     

    What am I supposed to call them, then? He-#####s? I put quotes on 'stud' for a reason.

    In fact, I heavily and vocally disapprove bedding out of wedlock in general, particularly if they do it frequently. Sorry if you don't like it, but hey, at least I'm not discriminating.

    Yes, you are. Are you so naive as to think you're the only one doing this in the country/world? When you ######-shame, you're one of countless people the woman you're shaming on that given day. Your comments have the weight of an entire society behind them. When you tell a guy he's wrong for sleeping around, you're probably the first who's said that to him in aeons. Again - false equivalence. And what you're doing is oppressive.

     

    I still fail to see how what I'm doing is discriminating. In my view, promiscuity (I meant promiscuity specifically, sorry about my poor choice of words) should be frowned upon in any case, whether it is a man or a woman doing it, and view the fact that it is unequal as just as bad as the fact that it is praised at all.

    Furthermore - even without the cultural weight, what you're doing is arrogant, sanctimonious, and evil regardless. No matter your personal feelings, you have absolutely no right to police what other people do in the bedroom or otherwise. I don't care what your supposed moral code tells you - if it's not telling you to stay out of other people's business, it's not a very moral code in the first place.

     

    I don't police, I disapprove vocally. I'm not going to forbid anyone from it. That would make me just as bad as the homophobes still trying to keep gay marriage banned. And while it does step from my Christian moral code originally, it is not entirely from it.

     

     

    But I'm not going to go out and riot, or donate to any old organization, and you had better not expect me to support that $######% Sarkeezian.

    You must have missed the part where I specifically said "You don't have to be radical to make a positive impact." Small supports are just as important - not everyone has the means to financially support, and not everyone has the stomach to torch the senate, and that's fine. But every little small thing is a positive thing, and I encourage people to find the level of participation that is comfortable for them, so long as they PARTICIPATE.

     

    I was just saying. Rest assured, I'll participate in the ways I mentioned before.

    And about ####-culture, think about it this way. If a girl is assaulted, 99.9% of people who find out about it are going to be sympathetic to her, console her, and call out the one who did the act.

    False, and statistics show otherwise. Even family and friends will often question the situation and try to put blame on the victim, saying absolutely ridiculous, reprehensible things like "you shouldn't have worn such revealing clothes." EXCUSE ME. WE SHOULDN'T BE TEACHING WOMEN THAT THEY NEED TO WEAR CERTAIN CLOTHES TO NOT GET RAPED. WE SHOULD BE TEACHING MEN NOT TO ######, PERIOD.

     

    Yep, heard this a thousand times. Thing is, men are taught not to ######, but there are still those who do it. Can't help that. And yes, I know it is shameful that people will put the blame on the victim.

    Especially given that statistics show clothing has NOTHING to do with sexual assault rates regardless! Rates are just as high among victims who are fully, "modestly" clothed - sexual assault isn't, as many try to portray it, a case of men being "unable to control their libido." It's a case of violent power play. It's about dominance, control, and violation; not libido. It's one of the most reprehensible crimes imaginable.

     

    Actually, that's not entirely true, but doesn't make the accusations right either. Tight, revealing clothing is actually less likely to attract an assaulter than would loose, easily-removed clothes. I agree with the rest of that.

    This can be particularly harsh if it's a false accusation. False accusations of assault have ruined many men's lives in the past. Now, if you think about men, and what happens when one of them gets assaulted... Yes, the majority of people will comfort said person, but because he's a man, he is more pressured to stand up and be strong, and as such, he will definitely, certainly receive at least twice as many assault-jokes as the women. Because men are like that. Sure, assault happens much more to women than men, but just consider that for a while.

    Are you serious? Are you kidding me? You're really saying "yeah, statistics show that a woman is sexually assaulted every two minutes in the USA, but sometimes men are made fun of, boo-hoo, these issues are equivalent?" Seriously? Get out! To even mention these things in the same breath is so ludicrously insulting and terrible I barely even know how to respond to it. You're putting some of the worst physical violence and a little boo-hoo inconvenience on the same pedestal. That's ridiculous and reprehensible.

     

    Now you're just interpreting things your own way. I was under the impression ######-culture referred more to the "okay-ness" of ######, and the claim that the victim isn't treated right afterwards, not the statistics at all. Which is the issue I addressed here. I am not saying they balance out at all.

    BUT OKAY - let's humour you for one moment. Because the very reason the (much smaller, but by no means unimportant) group of men who are sexually assaulted feel uncomfortable talking about it is, as you said, because they'd be emasculated - they'd be viewed as weak, and often made fun on. This is a direct result of the duality of roles that the patriarchal society enforces - women are "weak"; men are "strong." Men are "strong" because women are not - and a man who is not being "strong" is acting like "a woman"...the worst thing to act like, because women are "weak."

    The cultural view of men as hard, strong, and powerful is DIRECTLY related to viewing women as meek, weak, and inferior. And the ridicule that a man might face for being a victim of sexual assault is, by extension, calling him a woman.

    If you can't see the cultural misogyny hurting EVERYONE here, you're blind.

     

    I'm pretty sure you missed the fact that I meant that this was a bad thing.

    To get anyone who might be hating me now off my back, I'll say that I am not sexist. Heck, I even like abs on a girl a lot! I want a nice strong woman as a partner.

    Are you serious? You claim not to be sexist, and then your justification is objectifying a woman's body and tying a woman's value to being your mate? Are you for real?

     

    Oh wow, you actually pulled that one out. I've heard that one at least a million times and am sick of it. Objectifying, this, objectifying, that! If women don't want to be objectified in the slighted bit, then why do most of them still wear makeup?

     

    I am not objectifying, I am admiring. I am saying they are attractive. Women want to be desired, don't they? I said I want a nice strong woman, not "I would totally bang a strong woman without any emotional attraction to her". This is utterly absurd. How am I supposed to compliment my future girlfriend if she's going to shout at me for 'objectifying her' every time I do so?!

    But I simply don't believe that these issues are quite as bad as many people would have you believe.

    That is all.

    You're denying observable truth and you're part of the problem.

     

    I apologize for having a differing opinion.

     

    Also, BioGio, I applaud you.

  6. At first I thought this was an exaggeration... But you're serious.

     

    I'll make clear that I by no means believe that sexual assault is 'encouraged' in any serious way, shape or form. And I do not believe that women are being discriminated against in the proud US of A. I believe instead that the government is making bad decisions regarding all women, where they are focusing on a much smaller demographic which they could handle better anyways.

     

    I know, I'm not affected by it, but I'm not saying it doesn't happen, just that there is a different explanation for it than radfems think. Namely, that the gov. is stupid, and not actually mysoginistic.

     

    I take part in low-toned shaming, but I also shame "studs" as well. In fact, I heavily and vocally disapprove bedding out of wedlock in general, particularly if they do it frequently. Sorry if you don't like it, but hey, at least I'm not discriminating.

     

    I'll call out people who make jokes about assault, and I'll stand up for LGBT (I have many friends in there) people. But I'm not going to go out and riot, or donate to any old organization, and you had better not expect me to support that $@$$% Sarkeezian.

     

    And about ####-culture, think about it this way. If a girl is assaulted, 99.9% of people who find out about it are going to be sympathetic to her, console her, and call out the one who did the act. This can be particularly harsh if it's a false accusation. False accusations of assault have ruined many men's lives in the past. Now, if you think about men, and what happens when one of them gets assaulted... Yes, the majority of people will comfort said person, but because he's a man, he is more pressured to stand up and be strong, and as such, he will definitely, certainly receive at least twice as many assault-jokes as the women. Because men are like that. Sure, assault happens much more to women than men, but just consider that for a while.

     

    To get anyone who might be hating me now off my back, I'll say that I am not sexist. Heck, I even like abs on a girl a lot! I want a nice strong woman as a partner. But I simple don't believe that these issues are quite as bad as many people would have you believe.

     

    That is all.

  7. Glistening crystals reflected the pale light that filtered through the snow-laden skies. Snow whipped through the howling winds as more of it came pouring down. Visibility was nearing zero with each passing second, but fortunately, that was no problem to the only signs of life in the area.

     

    Draezeth broke a piece of ice off the wall and sucked on it, gulping down the melting water. He wasn't thirsty, but it was the only form of entertainment one could hope to find in an ice cave. Well, that and watch the crystals reflecting the pale sunlight. Or both, as he was doing now. Of course, he could always strike up a conversation with Hoc, who stood leaning on his bright red motorcycle nearby...

     

    Hoc would have loved to talk with Drae, but the icicle-drinking human (at least he thought he was human) always cut him off when his voice got too loud, which tended to happen a lot. Hoc polished the motorcycle's gleaming side affectionately. He glanced back at Drae again.

     

    Draezeth was a medium-sized young man with electric blue hair, and skin so pale that it, too looked blue. He always wore a pair of pointless blue shades which disguised his true eye color from Hoc. Right now, he wore a white and blue jacket and a pair of waterproof blue pants. He didn't have any gloves, and wore thick boots... also blue. He didn't shiver, despite the cold, and held the icicle as if it were a carrot, despite its subzero temperatures.

     

    Hoc shivered as he watched Drae sitting completely unphased, and silent. Hoc wasn't made of ice, as he suspected Draezeth might be, but he had his own secrets he would be reluctant to let Draezeth know. But if the snow continued, they would both have to start spilling the beans or they might be stuck for weeks. At least, that's what Hoc kept telling himself.

     

    And then there was that weir creature that followed Draezeth around. It had unnaturally blue fur, and purple horns. It slightly resembled a deer, only it was much too small, and, of course, it was blue.

     

    Getting irritated by the solid blue, blue and more blue, Hoc pulled a pair of red shades over his own eyes, and kept them focused on his own black, white and red snowboarding outfit.

     

    Realizing that he had been polishing the same two inches of his bike, he stopped and massaged his sore hand, "Look, man. I don't get you. Why in the world were you out here, why is your hair blue, why is your skin blue, why is that animal-thing blue, why aren't you shivering, and why aren't you packing any food?"

     

    An ironic smile touched Draezeth's face. He slowly got to his feet and, still smiling, "You've asked me those questions at least a thousand times over the last two days."

     

    I could have written more, but I got bored with it.

  8. New chapter of Reawakened added. I had an epic battle, but I wrote it without reading this week's update, so it isn't exactly an entry.

     

    As much as this week's topic is appealing to me, it just isn't my style to go into detail about the surroundings, and I'm afraid that it will stick out too much if I put an epic scene in the middle of my story. 'Fraid I'll have to miss out on this one again.

  9. It isn't following the theme, but I wrote a new chapter of Reawakened yesterday. I'm not sure if Epics Critics Club activities count, but I did a review of an epic called Possibilities, and another on Scions.

     

    But what a coincidence on the theme! I've started reading H. P. Lovecraft, and am planning on introducing some Cosmic Horror into Reawakened eventually!

     

    I also stuck a bit of poetry I made last week in last week's update. Review it PLEASE!

     

    Not to mention the banner I'm using in my sig now.

     

    I also kinda reviewed Inside, and all of the currently released chapters of Second to None.

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