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Notes


Nukora

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I hate communicating via giving notes (not passing them, but giving them and leaving them).

  1. You can't communicate as much or as instantly, mood is lacking, leading to misunderstandings. You can't explain yourself when you see the person's negative reaction.
  2. You never know when it was given. You could find it as soon as it was given, or a week later.
Oh, hey, and how does one apologize for something when the person he has offended avoids his verbal advances and possibly even his written notes? I can't get an oral conversation with the person, and I hate writing notes for the above reasons. Plus, the amount of words I need to apologize have already taken up a page and 7 lines with 12pt font, and I'm only halfway through. How do I mend things?

 

She asks me to explain my actions, and then avoids my first four attempts to apologize. The next morning she deliberately walks away from the table she usually sits at during breakfast just to avoid me. It's such a cruel contradiction.

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Been in this one WAYYYYYY too many times.

 

You stay there waiting for the person. When they are ready to talk to you, then you can apologize. You can't cool the red hot pan with water as soon as it's off the stove, you gotta let it cool itself down, otherwise you'll break it.

 

(NO idea where I pulled that Dr. Phil-like analogy, but it works)

 

Trust me man, from experience, the only thing you can do is simply exist.

 

~AA

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Wow, sounds like this person doesn't deserve an apology...
On the flip side, you could just as easily argue that I don't either. And that gets us nowhere.

 

Been in this one WAYYYYYY too many times.

 

You stay there waiting for the person. When they are ready to talk to you, then you can apologize. You can't cool the red hot pan with water as soon as it's off the stove, you gotta let it cool itself down, otherwise you'll break it.

 

(NO idea where I pulled that Dr. Phil-like analogy, but it works)

 

Trust me man, from experience, the only thing you can do is simply exist.

Hm. That's going to be hard. I don't even know if she will come to me. She's far from the talkiest person I know, and a friendship wouldn't even have formed if it wasn't for me actively pursuing her friendship. She has told me, however, that I am a good friend. I guess my being a good friend would hopefully make me worth pursuing as you said.

 

So I'll heed the advice. Thanks.

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