Opinions, Empathy, and Pizza
Opinions are good things. They are what make us different. If everyone liked the colour blue best, the world would be boring. But we also have people who like green and purple and yellow and brown, and those differences make us interesting.
Along with those differences come the opportunity to look at a situation from a different point of view. If everyone in the whole world liked pepperoni pizza, we could all get together and eat pepperoni pizza and laugh and enjoy each others' company, and it would be a great time. But in our world, not everyone likes pepperoni pizza best. Maybe they like hawaiian pizza, or vegetarian pizza. Not only is that okay, but it also provides a valuable opportunity: we can try to empathize with someone else.
Wikipedia says that "empathy is the capacity to recognize feelings that are being experienced by another sentient... being."
If everyone were the same, we would have no opportunity to recognize other feelings or opinions or points of view. The only way to experience something different would be to actively change yourself. But why in the world would you want to change yourself? If you like pepperoni pizza best, why would you want to force yourself to like hawaiian better?
That's where empathy comes in. Practicing empathy allows us to recognize the points of view that others hold without sharing them ourselves (the key word is recognize).
It's like you temporarily get to become another person. You get to understand their opinion, and you don't have to sacrifice your slice of pepperoni pizza to do so. You can understand that someone else likes hawaiian better; you can listen to countless details that support their decision; you can empathize with their feelings towards hawaiian pizza, and you can do all this without actually having to give up your favourite pizza.
Whether you like pepperoni pizza or hawaiian pizza doesn't matter. What does matter is that every disagreement and difference in opinion is an opportunity to walk a few steps in someone else's shoes, and briefly experience life through their eyes. You don't need to change, and they don't need to change. Instead, you both get to learn and experience something new (which is really one of the best parts of life I think you'll agree), and then return to what you like best, whether it's pepperoni or hawaiian.
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