Be civil when debating
I am completely fine with being proven wrong.
I am completely fine admitting that someone has shown what I said to be incorrect.
I have no issues apologizing for being adamant about something that was wrong that I did/said/etc.
To be perfectly frank I’ve always felt that being honest, even if that means getting egg on your face, and admitting to your mistakes when they happen or are proven wrong, is both a much better way to maintain respect of others, and a much better and healthier mentality, than being constantly on-guard to be certain I am never proven wrong.
If I say something, and you think I’m wrong, let’s have it out. Let’s talk about it. I’m going to throw a gigantic rant at you in most cases, probably some statistics, relevant information to back up my case, because I wouldn’t be going out and saying it in a public area if I wasn’t confident in it.
However, if I really am wrong, and you successfully prove that, I’m not going to pretend otherwise. A smart person knows how to fight, but a wise person knows when to admit defeat.
All I ask - and here’s the kicker - is that you treat me with respect. Even if you think what I’m saying is utterly asinine, even if you think I am a complete cool dude, even if you think that I have no idea what I’m talking about, all talking down at me or trying to shame me into conceding or using gratuitous ad hominem is going to do is make me less likely to listen to your points, and less likely to pay attention. After all, if you can’t respect me and my arguments, why should I respect you and your arguments? Regardless of who’s actually right, just like you truly believe you’re right and to the best of your understanding your argument is the truth, I truly believe I’m right and to the best of my understanding my argument is the truth. You don’t convince someone to change their stance or look at things differently by putting them on the defensive or making them feel insulted. No battle was ever won without an understanding of how your adversary thinks and how they will respond to your tactics.
Be calm. Be respectful. And most of all, don't antagonize. All it will do is create enemies for your cause.
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