Inexperience Kills Me
If you have no interest in listening to an ignorant kid having tons of questions about relationships, then leave. If you are one of those people who feels like you can help with, continue. (Noob and uncaring comment will be deleted/edited.)
The question is, does one date immediately constitute grounds/obligation for another one?
(I think the general answer is no later in life, but with dating at my age I think the answer is leaning towards the yes unless the two people absolutely did not get along.)
Here's what's going on through my mind (and I've talked this out with a trusted friend who seems to have a good grip on life and dating/courtship at this age):
Maybe it's not the best idea to go out with Heather, because our relationship would be long distance mostly. Granted, with Omi's thing about really liking her distance wouldn't matter, but I just think that in the long run it isn't the best idea. Can I stop now and not loose a good friend that shares my interests?
So how do I get together with her in the next few days to tell her that, although she's amazing and cute and all the other reasons I asked her out finally in the first place, I think it would be best to remain friends. We'll see each other over the summer at WAMALUG events, and I know she wants to see The Dark Knight, so we can hang out then but I figure it'd be best to get a group together.
Then I guess we go our separate ways to college not worrying about the distance between us, because by then maybe she'll finally email me so we can keep in touch and then we and all our friends can meet up again over Christmas break or something. If she joins an online Lego community then we'll never really loose each other.
I need to call her soon so she knows I'm thinking of her, and I was going to ask her out again. But I also need to talk to her about this. How do I say "I need to talk" without that phrase saying "I want to end a dating relationship"?
-CF
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