Problems
can someone please remind me how it is to sleep? That thing where you close your eyes and don't have really bad nightmares or body aches? I am so dadgumed tired. Even when I'm not worried about college, those health issues keep me from falling into the right REM sleep.
You guys. Don't take sleeping for granted. I remember a few weeks back I slept normally and it was the most wonderful thing ever. Do you guys seriously do that almost every night?
The term 'taking for granted' has been on my mind a lot. I've bumped into a lot of people who just complain or think their life is horrible. I usually hate it when people say "it could be worse" (because you don't want to think about how much worse could this be), but the basic premise is true. I'm a hypocrite, but sometimes I just cringe when I see people like that. It's selfish. It's selfish because you're all busy with yourself when you could be helping someone in a worse circumstance; and along the way it could solve your problem as well.
Learning over the years, 'problems' vary from person and location. One bad grade for a kid is no big deal; for the other it's traumatizing because this means she'll lose her scholarship. You hate school. Well, at least you can go--so many kids out there will never get a proper education, and many will work beyond their ability to get one. I could go down the list, but it can be vise-versa. We're all different people, we handle things differently. A break-up might seem silly to over-worry about in high school, but for that girl or guy who is beyond lonely and they think that's their only option to get rid of it--it is. Whether the intention is good or bad, it's always good to take a step back and view it.
What qualifies your life to be bad? Did your little sister break a LEGO set of yours? Hate eating carrots? You got in a fight with your parent? Bad teacher? Sometimes those things are placed in front of us for a reason. Maybe to help you learn patience, understanding, or just how stupid people are and it’s not worth getting frustrated with.
Instead whining, go out there and try to solve it. Do something, don’t just sit there. Find a person who has it worse than you and learn from them, or try to even help then. One amazing remedy to your own bitterness is being selfless. Trust me, it works. Not just helping others to feel good...when you get to that point when you help someone, and later realize that it made you feel good, you've come a long way. No, you're not running away from your problem, you're facing it. Don't bottle up your emotions either. If you need help, go get it! There are always options to solve things, no matter how grim your life may be. Find a few friends to talk to and get opinions from them about your dilemma. Getting different views can help more than you know.
You may have a terrible dilemma and it takes years to solve, but in the end it will make you stronger, and more knowledgeable to help others with the same issue. For the ‘smaller’ ones, you’ll open your eyes more, see what’s really important. You should feel blessed that you didn’t experience what you thought you were experiencing. In a way, a problem or your own ignorance is a blessing.
Nothing is wrong with having a pity-party or just being grouchy about some silly problem. But watch out…are you doing it because you really need that attention, or you want it because it makes you feel important? Don’t lie to others or yourself.
There's this balance, and I really hope more people find it. I swear it isn’t that complicated, I’m just giving you a hard time with my rambling. Maybe some of this requires practice. I sure did. We’re human. We got the bad in us, but we also have the good in us to counter it as well. Trying is better than doing nothing and moping.
Compassion, tolerance, and love are really important in times like this. We need to go out there more. While our world is expanding, we're also becoming more isolated in our gadgets, our worlds, our problems. Not only is that bad, but it makes us extremely closed-minded and many will never even conceive it. I'm not trying to make people guilty, or complain about complainers, I'm sorry. But someone needs to talk about it, yah know? This is more. I've seen so many people hurt through this confusing mess on both sides and I just want it to stop.
So, the moral of the story is I need some chocolate and to go to bed.
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