I was thinking more along the lines of a kind of soft power. Like in a way that's not conspicuous, so "being superior" would be a bad way to describe it. It might make more sense if you take "overcomes" to mean "to surmount," "to spread over," "to resist," or "to overflow," although this is a pretty metaphorical discussion so you probably don't want to get too retentive with definitions. And "crushing" just wouldn't make sense for what something soft does to something hard.
I wasn't, I'm just discussing the gender-element correspondences that Chronicler06 proposed. And you're claiming that elements can be gendered, which sounds like it would be questionable, by your own standards.